Why marriage is no longer in vogue

 Year in year out styles and trends hit Nigeria and just as fast, they give way to new trends. One enduring trend that has managed to be sustained in Nigeria despite losing its value in the western world is Marriage. In Nigeria, the sanctity of marriage has long been held in high regard as a crucial element for every ripe adult. Unfortunately, in recent times, marriage among Nigerians has gone out of vogue; it seems fewer and fewer Nigerians in general are interested in the concept of remaining tied to one partner for years. Women in their forties are strutting around town choosing to remain unmarried and men in their fifties are bouncing around in jeans and face caps, believing it is cool to stay single and unsaddled with a wife and children.
There are more baby mamas in town and few wives; there are more sugar daddies and few husbands and divorce lawyers are getting richer by the hour.
 It’s a sad reality that the society has accepted. As the love for elaborate wedding heightens and the zeal to stay married diminishes, marriage loses its value and the number of broken homes sky rockets. Gone are the days when women had the spirit of submissiveness and men had the passion for protecting and providing for women. Women are no longer interested in  the childish wimps of men and men have lost interest in listening to women nag. There is one word that governs why marriage is no longer in vogue and its ‘freedom’.
Except for love and the need to reproduce, women used to believe marriage is important so men can take over their financial burdens. Women empowerment in Nigeria is of utmost importance and just like men, women are beginning to make strides in Nigeria economy, contributing their quota to the society and becoming increasingly independent. With the increase of independent women, more men suffer from low self-esteem, choosing to stay single rather than get into a union where the woman calls all the shots.
80% of Nigerian men rather spend their evenings in bars and their weekends in clubs than sit around the home and cater to the feelings of a woman. In a bid to stay free of this responsibility, they have shied away from the alter and
The fear of marriage has overshadowed the hypothetical benefits of marriage. Fear of failure, fear of in-laws, fear of being maltreated or neglected, fear of not meeting up to societal standards; ask a single woman why she has chosen to remain unmarried and one of these fears will be part of her reasons. Marriage does not appeal to women again; getting married has become too much about everyone else when it is just supposed to be between two people. “I have not found the right man” is an excuse that embodies more than the scarcity of men who are willing to stay committed.
Nigeria should get ready to witness the overwhelming decrease of married couples and the rapid increase of single adults because the perks of single life have outweighed the benefits of marriage.